For a period of time, I was obsessed with the Myer Briggs Personality test, reading books and articles about the various types of personalities there are. What am I? I’m an INFJ. I for Introvert, N for Intuitive, F for feelings, and J for Judgment. I’m actually not one to believe in categorizing something as personal as one’s identity. Although this test classifies that there are 16 personalities, I think there are undefinable traits for every human and individuality is present on both a material and spiritual level. Instead, I’d like to see this test more as a proposition of how people are innately different in their cognitive style, affecting the way we see the world and take in information, as well as how we make decisions.
I think many writers are introverts because they have that rich internal world that fuels their inspiration to write. I went through growing pains during my teen years managing my introverted-ness, but I think I turned out alright. The letters NF equates to an idealist temperament; someone interested in the humanities and always soul-searching on a quest for self-knowledge and self-improvement. J for structure and order.
Above all, an idealist seeks for a soulmate in a romantic relationship. Often times, people fall short of our excessively idealistic standards, and “we accept the love we think we deserve.” Either by resorting to someone who will treat us badly or we wait for someone to treat us to that pedestal.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Stephen Chbosky in The Perks of Being a Wallflower